Monday, July 2, 2012
Special Relationship: Mother/Daughter
I remember when The Builder was born. We didn't find out the sex of our babies either time. So, I had no idea that The Builder was going to be a boy. I was of course happy about having a boy. You know what everyone says, "As long as it's healthy". That little boy became the love of my life. And the nurse in the hospital told me "Little boys turn into big boys who always take care of their mother." But, I always remember this quote:
"A son is a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter is your daughter for all her life"
And some part of me thinks that quote is true. And truthfully, I don't think many people like "momma's boys", so maybe it just needs to be true! So, some part of me always wanted a daughter. I don't know why I think that if The Builder has kids, I won't ever see them. I just feel like girls are closer to their own mothers most of the time than they are to their mother-in-laws. Makes sense, right? So, if he ever has kids, his wife will probably want help from her side of the family. I know it sounds absolutely absurd. But, that's just the way I was thinking when I first had The Builder.
Actually, I really hope that I have a close relationship with any of the people that my kids decide to marry. Family is very important to me and I hope that we can all have a close bond.
Nevertheless, I was very happy when Future Fashionista was born and they told me it was a girl. I actually asked them, "Are you sure?". Because I really thought I was having another boy. As soon as they told me, I had visions of pink, pink and more pink. I'm a girlie girl. I dreamed of all the days we'd spend doing girlie things.
Although right now, she tells me she hates me about as much as she spends time hugging me. Every time I don't let her have a cookie or whatever she wants at any given second, I'm the "worst mommy in the world". We ALL know that that's just karma coming around to bite me! I used to scream the same words at my mom. I was absolutely rotten to her! So, Future Fashionista is just karma's way of saying, "Haha". But, I know FF loves me. She is constantly giving me hugs and drawing pictures of us holding hands.
Do you have daughter(s)?