Monday, July 2, 2012

Special Relationship: Mother/Daughter

I remember when Logan was born.  We didn't find out the sex of our babies either time.  So, I had no idea that Logan was going to be a boy.  I was of course happy about having a boy. You know what everyone says, "As long as it's healthy".  That little boy became the love of my life.  And the nurse in the hospital told me "Little boys turn into big boys who always take care of their mother."  But, I always remember this quote:

"A son is a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter is your daughter for all her life"

And some part of me thinks that quote is true.  And truthfully, I don't think many people like "momma's boys", so maybe it just needs to be true!  So, some part of me always wanted a daughter.  I don't know why I think that if Logan has kids, I won't ever see them.  I just feel like girls are closer to their own mothers most of the time than they are to their mother-in-laws.  Makes sense, right?  So, if he ever has kids, his wife will probably want help from her side of the family.  I know it sounds absolutely absurd.  But, that's just the way I was thinking when I first had Logan. 

 Actually, I really hope that I have a close relationship with any of the people that my kids decide to marry.  Family is very important to me and I hope that we can all have a close bond.

Nevertheless, I was very happy when Jaycee was born and they told me it was a girl.  I actually asked them, "Are you sure?".  Because I really thought I was having another boy.  As soon as they told me, I had visions of pink, pink and more pink.  I'm a girlie girl.   I dreamed of all the days we'd spend doing girlie things.  

Although right now, she tells me she hates me about as much as she spends time hugging me.  Every time I don't let her have a cookie or whatever she wants at any given second, I'm the "worst mommy in the world".  We ALL know that that's just karma coming around to bite me!  I used to scream the same words at my mom.  I was absolutely rotten to her!  So, Jaycee is just karma's way of saying, "Haha".  But, I know Jaycee loves me.  She is constantly giving me hugs and drawing pictures of us holding hands.  

When I saw this on Pinterest the other day, I had to Pin it. I LOVE this quote!!
Here is a picture of me and my future best friend while we were on vacation.  This was the last day when we went shopping with Nana.  That was the day we got our matching beach dresses.
I'm very blessed that I actually get to see MY mom this weekend!  Yay!!  She'll be flying in to spend the weekend with us.  We're so excited that we'll get to spend some time with her one on one.  When I still lived at home, my mom and I had a standing lunch date every week.  It didn't matter what I did, or where I was on Sunday night, I always managed to make my way home in time for our lunch date on Monday.  My best friend actually told me, "You'll never leave home, you wouldn't be able to miss your lunch dates with your mom!"  I wish I was closer to home so that I could have those lunch dates.  We'll just have to cram it all into one weekend!

Do you have daughter(s)? 


  1. Not a mother yet... but I am a daughter. I LOVE my Momma... and no matter how much we can fight, i can't live without my Momma <3

  2. Lovely post Michelle! I heard that saying too ( A son is a son...). As an adult daughter, I'd get so frustrated when visiting my parents at dinner time my mom would go into robot mode and tell me to set the table. Funny that she stopped doing that when I had kids. I have 2 boys and while I haven't thought about the MIL thing, I do sometimes wonder if our family dynamics would be different if we had a girl.

  3. Like you, I have one of each gender and I love it. It's great to see them growing up and becoming their own people - they are both teens now, and love me in their own special ways.

  4. I have 5 daughters, 3 are married and only one lives close by. Interestingly enough, my oldest daughter lives in another state, and her husband is very keen on visiting and staying with his mom, which means we rarely see them even though his mom lives only 20 miles away from us.

    On the other hand, 4 of my 6 sons all live with in walking distance from me.

  5. Funny, I was the opposite with my guys & have only recently started to appreciate my daughter. Now I truly understand why people want girls ;-)

  6. Well right now with w tween daughter --I'm her worst nightmare about 75% of the time. I REALLY do love the lil bit of cuddle time and the moments when she is willing to spend time with me.

    My son on the other hand is my "love bug" he is just 6 so I'm sure it will change =)

    PS I'm going to pin that too-although I always tell my daughter now I'm her mom first NOT her friend---being a grown daughter I know it WILL become true one day.

  7. I have a 13 month old daughter. I have to say, my relationship with my mom got even closer when I had my daughter. I don't have any boys to compare it to, but the relationship I have with my girl is one I will always cherish.

  8. I have three and they are amazing!

  9. I have one child and that is my daughter. I do have a special bond with her and I do believe that daughters grow up to be your best friends. I love every single moment that is spent with my daughter and nothing in the world can replace that bond we have.


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