Proverbs 31 Challenge | Making my Husband a Priority

Circa@February, 2011, Still as Relevant for Me & Our Relationship in 2017! 

I told you guys a couple days ago that I had taken on the "Proverbs 31" challenge that Lynda from "My Heart's Desire" posted.  

Here is week #1's challenge as she has it posted:

Week 1: Proverbs 31:10-12 Are you a virtuous and capable wife more precious than rubies? Does your husband trust you, and do you enrich his life? Do you bring him good everyday? Write a post about something you would like to change about yourself, and something you love about yourself. How does this add to the enrichment of your husband's life? 

Now that I told you our "backstory" yesterday, I must tell you that our marriage hasn't always been easy.  And if there is a person out there that says that their marriage is easy, I'm willing to bet they're not being truthful.  Marriage is hard!  Any relationship is hard.  Every relationship takes work.  And so, my marriage takes work.  I'm not always good at putting my husband first.  So, I guess the thing that I would change about myself is learning to prioritize my husband's needs a little higher. 

My intimacy with my husband has all but disappeared.   And I'm not talking about just "physical" intimacy.  I'm talking about the small things, like small talk, or talking about bigger issues.  We're both extremely busy.  He usually leaves the house before 6:00 in the morning for his job.  Which is stressful--his job I mean.  On a normal day, he gets home around 4:30.  If he's working a side job, he could be as late as 9:00.  I have to get the kids up and ready for school, take them to their various activities, clean the house, do laundry, pay bills, prepare three meals a day, etc.  The same stuff we all have to do!  But, when it comes right down to it, my husband and I are both exhausted by the end of the day.  I just don't feel like adding another "activity", even if it is just talking. 

So, from now on, I'm going to be more aware of him and his needs.  He needs the intimacy because it "balances" him.  It helps him know that there is more to life than the stressful job.  The funny thing about physical intimacy, is that in most cases, women need to feel like they are emotionally close to their spouse to be physical.  And for men, the act of being physical is what makes them feel emotionally close.  It's a catch 22.  But, somehow someone has to be the first to start the circle in a positive spin. So, for this month and hopefully going forward, I will try to be there for my husband, physically, spiritually and emotionally.  I'll get off the computer a little earlier.  I'll put my books aside.  And I'll spend time with my husband. 

As for what I like about myself, I like that I forgive so quickly.  Believe me, this is a good thing for our relationship.  My husband can have a bit of a short fuse sometimes.  And he really lets a lot of things bother him.  He has gotten a lot better with age, but he's still growing,  as hopefully we all are.  Here's the funny thing--maybe if we start spending more quality time together he will be more "balanced" and his fuse won't be as short.  That would make his life happier and definitely more enriched.  I will do my best to be there for him.  We have a good marriage.  We are both still in love with each other.  It's just that life is kind of getting in the way right now.  Maybe, just maybe, we can make our marriage even better!  And together we can get the circle spinning in the positive direction! 

Do you feel like every now and then you need to perform a "check" to make sure you're being the wife that your hubby needs?

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