Growing Up: 10 Ways to Stop Relying on Your Parents

Count yourself incredibly lucky if you have parents who are willing to support you emotionally and financially. You should, therefore, show your appreciation for all they have done for you by becoming a little more independent; otherwise, those acts of kindness could eventually become a little expected.

Give your parents back their freedom by learning to stand on your own two feet. Unsure where to start? Simply read these 10 ways to stop relying on your parents.

1.    Move Out of the Family Home
Have you become a little too dependent on Mom and Dad? You must become an official adult by moving out of the family home. Your parents may be upset at the thought of you securing your own house or apartment, but they will be proud of you once you start paying bills, decorating your home, and cooking your own meals. So, embrace independence by finding apartments for rent near you.
2.    Don’t Call Mom and Dad
Your first instinct might be to telephone Mom and Dad when something goes wrong. Before you pick up the phone, try to resolve the problem by yourself, as you must learn to depend on yourself. While parents can often make bad situations much better, you will feel a great sense of satisfaction when you find the right solution. You can then inform them of your landmark moment when you pick up the phone just to chat.
3.    Enjoy a Little Distance
While it is important to keep your family close, you do not want to keep them too close. There is no point moving out if you are going to spend time with your parents for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Enjoy a little distance from your parents to embrace more independence.
4.    Earn Your Own Money
Your parents have spent much of their lives spending money on you. Now you are an adult, this is their time to spend their hard-earned money on themselves. Don’t sit back and allow your parents to hand everything to you on a plate. Become financially independent by paying your own way in life. So, instead of asking Mom or Dad to help you out of a financial scrape, take out a second job or start a side hustle to increase your income.
5.    Borrow Money as a Loan
There might be times in your life when you may have no other choice but to ask your parents for financial help. If so, you should not view this as free money, but you should treat their help as a loan. You can establish a deadline for repayments with your parents, which you should aim to repay each week or month until the debt has been cleared. This will teach you financial responsibility, and you can guarantee your parents will be extremely proud of you.
6.    Connect with Independent People
Surround yourself with like-minded people so you can develop a support system. Connecting with other adults will mean you have another pair of hands to help you overcome a problem, rather than immediately calling your parents. So, if you don’t know how to boil an egg, build flatpack furniture, or wash your clothes, you can simply telephone another responsible adult.
7.    Make Your Own Decisions
Your parents will more than likely be willing to provide their opinion on every aspect of your life. After all, they will want the best for you. Yet, they could potentially influence your decisions. Don’t allow your parents to pick and choose the things you do in life.  Start making your own choices. Weigh up the pros and cons of each solution, and only ask for their advice when absolutely necessary.
8.    Make Mistakes
Going it alone might fill you with fear, as you might be afraid of making mistakes along the way; however, it is okay to experience a few disasters. Each failure you experience will increase your knowledge and will help you to grow as a person. Everyone needs to start somewhere, so don’t be afraid of stumbling every now and then. You will be a stronger, more independent person for it.
9.    Plan for Your Future
Once you have fled the family home, you cannot look back. You must look to the future, and the best way to do so is by setting some realistic goals. Once you have done so, do everything in your power to tick every goal on your list. You can even tell your parents about your goals, so they will cheer you on and will hold you accountable when you fall off track. So, you’ll have their complete support when working harder to become a more independent adult.
10. Embrace the Chaos
Standing on your own two feet for the first time will not be easy. You may potentially find it challenging to pay your bills on time, save money, and go to work while running a household, but it’s all part of the fun and games of being an adult. Rather than running away from your responsibilities and back into the comforting arms of Mom and Dad, embrace the chaos and be proud of every achievement you make along the way, no matter how small. Simply making a delicious meal from cheap ingredients will provide you with a buzz of satisfaction.

Let’s face it, no matter how much your parents love and support you, they will want you to become a responsible adult, which means renting your own home, paying your own bills, and resolving simple or complex problems by yourself. Your independence will be a testament to their parenting skills over the years. So, prove how thankful you are for everything they have done for you by embracing responsibility. You might discover becoming an adult isn’t as hard as you initially thought.

Did you successfully flee the family home? Have you got any top tips for others? Feel free to share your advice and stories by writing a comment below.

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