Finding Love the Second Time Around

If you find yourself in a position of looking for love the second time around, it can be daunting for some, and bring about many challenges. Many people have many relationships in their life, and for some looking for a partner can come at any age. There may be various challenges that were non-existent the first time around, but that doesn’t mean the challenges cannot be tackled and met.

Be sure of what you want

Being single isn’t anything to be ashamed of or worried about. You will have the new freedom that you can explore, new opportunities opening up to you, and you may find you have a different outlook on life. An individual does not need another person to complete them. If you are happy being single, embrace the feeling and live your life to the full. When you feel ready to start dating again, you’ll be in a much better place emotionally to find the right person. If you are still perhaps going through the motions of getting over a previous relationship, you need time and space to rebuild your sense of identity and be sure about what you want from your life, and from your partner.

Finding a new love

It can sometimes feel like a bit of a challenge getting out there and looking for someone new. Your approach will depend on how you feel about meeting new people, whether you’re happy to go out and socialize, whether you prefer the idea of using a matchmaking service or online dating, or maybe you just want to wait for Mr. or Ms. Right to show up on your doorstep. If you feel concerned about the best way to find a new partner, talk to your friends. They will allay any fears you may be harboring about your age, your appearance, or the fact you haven’t dated in so long. They will be there to encourage you, to take you out, and they may even know some eligible singles they can introduce you to. Even if these early dates don’t work out long-term, you will still be gaining confidence for the future.

Possible pitfalls

Your safety is paramount, so follow the safe dating advice that is available online, for example meeting someone in a public place, having a friend on standby in case you need help. Most people are genuine and honest and have no intention of hurting you, so don’t become paranoid; just take some sensible precautions to ensure your safety just in case. There’s no failsafe way of being sure you’ll meet someone you like and want to see again, so put any dates down to experience and move on. On the other hand, you could feel desperately attracted to someone and feel like you’re falling head over heels. That’s a lovely feeling but try to avoid rushing into anything. These intense feelings may not last, or the person may turn out to not be as great as you thought they were. The romantic ideal of meeting the love of your life and falling for each other may not be as easy as it sounds. Some of the most rewarding and long-lasting relationships evolve between two people who have just been friends for a while before the feelings blossom into true love.

Making plans

Once you do find someone you want to be with, the likelihood is that you may, at this stage of your life, have your own homes, and perhaps have kids, pets, or a whole life that you have each built up. This can seem daunting to bring a new person into your life. If you don’t feel ready to make any big upheavals in your life, just maintain the relationship as it is, until it grows into the kind of bond that makes you feel you want to embrace the change. Make your new partner a part of your family, introduce them to your kids, family, and friends, and involve them in your life beyond the relationship you have between the two of you. 

One of the most difficult challenges can be the reaction of your kids, and it’s sensible to do some research on the best way of making sure everyone gets along. Don’t be afraid of the whole step-parent situation though, as many families become very close and live very happily together. If you both want to get married, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t have just as big a wedding as your first – or even more lavish if that’s what you want. 

The options for different sorts of weddings are now so diverse you can have pretty much any kind of wedding you like. Have a look online and at some wedding magazines to get some ideas of what would work for you. You could have a complete package from a company like Simply Elegant, you could choose to get married on an exotic beach somewhere overseas, or you could do something quirky and personal to you like getting married during a skydive. The point is, just because it’s not your first time doesn’t make it any less reasonable to have the wedding of your dreams.

If you find yourself at a point in your life where you may be looking at getting married for the second time, or you are finding love the second time around, it may be daunting and full of challenges, however, this isn’t to say that it won’t be rewarding and enjoyable. Many people find love at any stage in life. Ensuring that you are happy is paramount, and some are fortunate to find love a second time around. Any relationship is the next adventure, and with some confidence and help from family and friends, finding happiness again is all the more achievable. Remember to give yourself some time to adjust, to make sure you know what you really want, and learn from past experiences that have helped shape you as a person. Doing so will mean you are more prepared than ever to take on whatever life throws at you. 

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  1. I was lucky to find love once and if I ever loss Tim I will not find it again

    1. Then, here's to health & happiness for you two! What a blessing to have found your true love. :)


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